I’m also an involuntary, 50-year-old, heterosexual, male virgin. I’ve only been on a few dates in my life, and those women were very quick to tell me what a “great guy” I was (not a good sign) and how “comfortable” they felt with me (a worse sign). My attempts at seduction are usually met with chuckles (“But Tim, I don’t see you that way!”) or they change the subject immediately. I don’t want to go to a prostitute, but I’m at a loss at this point. I’m in good shape, I have a great sense of humor (so I’m told by all the women who laugh at my quips), and I actually listen to women. Two things I don’t have – good looks and money. As cliché as that sounds, those things matter. If I were a beautiful woman, why would I want a broke troll as a mate? Sense of humor? Forget it. Women claim that’s number one on their list of desirable traits in men. But as Gilbert Gottfried once said, “Oh yeah, a sense of humor. I see beautiful women every day crawling over Tom Selleck to get to Buddy Hackett!” (A little dated, but you get the point).

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As well as being very shy and having low self-esteem I also had a crippling dependency on porn. I started watching porn and masturbating at the tender age of 12. I always thought why put the work in when I can get my kicks easily by typing in a porn website URL. I also tricked myself into thinking that real sex can’t be much better than masturbation. It also turned me into a recluse and I started avoiding my friends and staying a home 24/7 by the age of 18.

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The more time passed the more it became “obvious” that sex was never going to happen and therefore fantasy became the best sexual refuge (not really porn, more erotic stories). It really was too easy to convince myself, and justify that conviction, that no girl would find me attractive. I don’t know if sexual intimacy will ever happen as the fear is still there and that has produced several trust issues, towards others as well as myself. Also, the self imposed safety gap is very wide. Circumstances now have given me reasons, or at least good excuses, not to change anything, but still there are times I do pondr the question, have I missed out on something? As stated before, usually I never think about it, but sometimes I do wonder.

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When do we get to hear or see the other side of the sick porn culture, the “actors” with the high incidence rate of herpes and other viral diseases; the rampant drug abuse; the fact that most of those sucked into “acting” are doing so through poverty and survival and that they are pretty much destroying their value in the larger society. The social, economic, psychological, and general health costs of sex outside of marriage are considerable; my guess is that over 50% of health costs can be tied to inappropriate sexual behavior. For me virginity is one of those things usually forgotten about. Not having sex probably started as a fear of humiliation and/or failure. Since the easiest way to deal with any fear is to avoid that which you’re afraid of then I guess it’s not surprising that it quickly became easy to rationalize, why try if you’re only going to fail.

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I’m a 25 year old virgin (26 soon) and I’ve never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl. But then again I’ve never tried. I always told myself “what’s the point of even trying?”, because I was always a shy socially anxious person. I also thought that way I could avoid rejection and the misery that goes along with it. As a younger man I always had girls approaching me but I took this for granted and shunned most of them because I believed they weren’t good enough for me.

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